Dads and depression

This section is for fathers with depression, and for men whose partner may be suffering from postnatal depression.

Becoming a father can be an overwhelming experience. There is some evidence to suggest that new dads can become depressed after the birth of their baby. Fathers can experience a range of concerns, from anxiety related to being a “good enough” dad, to memories about your relationship with your father that may not have been positive for you.

Becoming a father brings about new responsibilities. There can also be a feeling of loss of your “freedom”. Financial concerns may feel heavier then before. You may also feel a little “left out” as your partner now has a full time job caring for the new arrival.

Historically, men don’t talk about their feelings and fears. This can lead to more stress. It is not unreasonable to ask for some reassurances and encouragement as you and your partner make the transition to parenthood. It is important that if you are feeling stressed you find someone who you can discuss these feelings with openly. Try talking to your partner, your own father, a friend who has had children or your GP. Don’t be afraid to ask for help!

Advice for fathers whose partner has postnatal depression.

Postnatal depression is an illness that is nobody's fault. It affects the entire family; everyone needs help and support. Here are some links that may help you to find the understanding and support that you need.